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Thursday, August 10, 2006

Thu, 10 Aug 2006 02:14:26 GMT

Will anyone be around the greater Los Angeles area from Wednesday, August 16th- Sunday, August 21st? Going for a friend's wedding, but in need of ideas, and even better people to chill with during the times where I won't be suddenly reminded that my friends are getting married and I'm getting old...I need this vacation bad, so I'm ready to party!

Locals, I need advice for the following:
1. Hawaiian food
2. Spicy, delicious fish tacos
3. Sexy lounge atmosphere-type bar
4. Da Bomb-ass Sushi
5. Where da west coast girls at?

Friday, March 17, 2006

Fri, 17 Mar 2006 15:28:20 GMT

Edit: I'm going DANCING AGAIN!
LEAVING TONIGHT FOR ROUND 2 OF THE NCAA TOURNAMENT.
2005- NASHVILLE.
2006- GREENSBORO, NORTH CAROLINA!

HOBBS.

LOOK FOR ME COURTSIDE. SECTION 128 AA.
CBS, 1 PM EST.
MARCH MADNESS BABY!
BRING IT ON DUKE,
CAUSE I'M NANA POPS MENSA-BONSU, BITCH!

Oh what a post-NCAA-Round 1-Victory-hangover.
It hurts so much.
Wish me luck as I attempt to get tickets

TO BEAT DUKE!

Oh what a splendid drunken-post-St Patties Day-hangover that will be.

Wednesday, March 15, 2006

Wed, 15 Mar 2006 03:35:08 GMT

This was written by an old friend of mine. She has always been an exception writter. Let me know what you guys think. Oh, and dear friend of mine, sorry I just cop'ped your shit.

-SO

Plight of the Nice Guy

Like most heterosexual unmarried (and married) women, I think about men a LOT. And I've been thinking a lot lately about the kind of men that women (myself included) are generally drawn to. Unfortunately for us, we usually go for the bad boy rather than the nice guy. It pains me a little to witness the classic situation in which a nice guy gets the "just friends" talk ... I've been one to deliver such a speech on a few occasions. However, I've also been on the receiving end of the "just friends" talk on a number of occasions so I can sort of understand it from both sides.

First of all, the fact that so many nice men out there are getting dismissed by females is really part of a larger and sadder reality -- that people often don't do what would ultimately be good for themselves. How many times have I heard girls complain about guys who treat them like shit, saying "why can't I just find a nice guy," then go on to completely ignore said men and keep falling for assholes. So now I'd like to attempt to explain an age-old question: why do nice guys finish last?

The answer lies in the exceptions to the rule. As much as we humans love sweeping generalizations, there are nice guys out there who attract a great many girls. They strike the delicate balance of caring about a girl's feelings while also playing it cool. And I think a big secret lies in the fact that these guys may be nice but they are also FUN and EXCITING to be around. These are the kinds of men who are secure in their masculinity and thus their ability to entertain women.

Guys who are out to only get a piece of ass also come off as secure in their masculinity, often to a hypermasculine extent. However, the really successful "bad boys" have to restrain themselves from coming on too strong (grabbing a woman's butt would be an instance of coming on too strong) because they'd probably get slapped. If they want to get a woman in bed, they at least have to seduce her under the guise of a "nice guy," someone who will call her the next day, etc. etc. They are basically wolves in sheep's clothing, a.k.a. modern-day Machiavellis. But eventually karma will catch up to them. After establishing a reputation among women for being deceitful pricks, they have doomed themselves to a life of meaningless relationships. By ruining other people, they basically ruin themselves.

So all you nice guys out there who feel like they have bad luck with girls, don't despair. Being a bad boy doesn't really pay off all that much. That being said, I'd also like to offer you some advice (because I'm definitely on your side). First of all, don't change the fact that you are "nice" -- it is a unique and valuable quality that will pay off in the long run. BUT (and this is a big but) keep in mind that being nice is not going to be enough to attract women -- love does not equal justice in this world. There has to be more than "niceness" that you can offer them.

For instance, women love mysterious men ... so appearing somewhat indifferent to their attention will inevitably draw their attention. Don't be self-conscious; this has a double-benefit of you appearing secure and also maintaining focus on the girl. Because girls love to be the center of a man's attention. Stay focused, but also show that you're comfortable in a variety of social situations; for instance, if you're at a party, totally work the room ... excuse yourself for a moment, talk to some other people and show off the fact that you have social skills, and then return to talk to woman of interest. Be enthusiastic about your life -- too much negativity can be really unattractive, and also uncomfortable to be around. If you have a sense of humor, use it -- if you don't, get one. Being able to make a woman laugh sets about a series of pleasurable experiences that she will continue to either consciously or unconsciously associate with you.

Of course, there is also some more superficial advice ... be athletic, make sure your hair looks good (or at least wear a hat that looks good), wear nice clothes that fit well, and make sure you smell good. While I hate to admit it, we women, like men, are initially superficial creatures. I'm just being honest.

So that's my reflective blog. While I'm offering advice to men, I don't mean to characterize women as automatons when it comes to dating ... in fact, I really think that women need to play an active role by paying more attention to nice guys; even if you're willing to date them, they probably just slip right past you as your attention is occupied with the guys driving motorcycles. Also, we really shouldn't tolerate assholes and asshole behavior because we basically encourage their existence by doing so.

I'm not sure how to close this blog ... I guess I'll just open it up to people for comments. All in all, though, I think the only hope for saving the dating world (and the rest of the world) is that people learn how to treat each other better. For everyone's sake, including their own.

Wednesday, February 01, 2006

Wed, 01 Feb 2006 02:21:24 GMT

I have to admit I miss laying down my thoughts.
Here's a quick update as to what's been up with me.

1. 6-day work weeks do wonders for your overtime hours.

2. Fuck 2005. It's all about 2006.

3. Check out my recent purchase.

Surfstik. A sized down version of its big bro, the Carveboard. (see below) . You may remember him. You may not.
Either way, get to know them.

And to gel it all together... Time to train with this new lovely toy.

And so, my arsenal grows.

Wanna play?

Sunday, December 18, 2005

Sun, 18 Dec 2005 10:54:30 GMT

Confession: A tiny, guilty pleasure.
The Closer we seem to get, the more tumultuous my life becomes.

Sunday, December 04, 2005

Sun, 04 Dec 2005 00:11:11 GMT

Tyra- Thanks for the Memories

Thursday, November 17, 2005

Thu, 17 Nov 2005 00:50:16 GMT

Nothing like talking to the two most important women in your life to make you feel better. Don't worry, you've raised your son well. He'll do his best to make you both proud. And just so you know, he misses you both greatly.

Wednesday, November 09, 2005

Wed, 09 Nov 2005 01:03:03 GMT

For the man who desires stability and certainty, what do you prescribe when he finds himself lost and agonizingly confused? What magical pill can he swallow to quell the lingering side affects of last night's wild romp through the realms of frustration and grief? How does one handle the realization that he must somehow embrace a side of change that will let him move on with his life, rather than continue with his own self-prescribed self-improvement exercise routine that is apparently doing nothing for his gluts and pectoral muscles? Makes no sense right? Yeah, I wouldn't expect anyone to make one shred of sense in what I just wrote. It barely makes sense to me too. And yet, those are the twists and turns of the maze that I wake up to baring in my ears every morning. In the past two months, the decibels have increased significantly; the bass' reverberations stabbing into my heart and mind, nothing can quell the unceasing noise. Retreating back into the depths of a bottomless hole is a strategy that no longer seems to work. Like Hansel and Gretel, try to follow my path of breadcrumbs. I'll be waiting. Hands outstretched, muscles and tendons ripping out of their sockets, I'll be waiting. Don't worry, I've held this position for what seems like far too long, but I still have enough within myself to inch closer and closer, back to you.

Saturday, November 05, 2005

Sat, 05 Nov 2005 23:02:33 GMT

"Do you believe a man can change his destiny?"

"I believe a man does what he can...until his destiny is revealed to him."

Tuesday, October 25, 2005

Tue, 25 Oct 2005 04:14:36 GMT

"Anger is all about management. You choose to manage it, or you don't."

"If you get too comfortable, you lose your edge. A little pain keeps you striving."

-Thanks Rob Zombie